He who fears the Lord has a secure fortress and for his children it will be a refuge.
Proverbs 14:26

Saturday, January 2, 2016

Transition (ing)

I added the "ing" to transition in the title because I'm realizing that it's something that is never truly done.  In this crazy life we lead (who signed me up for this anyway?!), there is always something to transition from or to, whether it be a new living situation, a new language (or even a dialect shift in the current language), a new school, etc etc etc.  The list goes on!  

In the midst of the craziness, one thing that has remained constant, is the resiliency of these 4 amazing little people and for that I am super thankful.  The transitions of our life that still have me kicking and screaming (on a good day), have become very normal to them.  No, that does not make goodbye easy.  Pretty sure that part gets harder every time.   


But the flexibility and resiliency required for this life we lead- they've got that part down.  And that is such a blessing from the Lord that I do not take for granted for one minute. 
 It's the days leading up to and from the transition that get me.  The packing, the sorting, the "mom can i keep this bag of rocks?" type questions.  The days where every room of my house look like this.  Footlockers piled everywhere, "give away, throw away, keep" piles on top of the footlockers.  
And did I say "my house"?  Because I guess in reality that is not the case either.  It's a temporary dwelling that we call home simply because the 6 of us are there, and most days, that is enough, but in the midst of transition it often makes me want to pull my hair out!  

And, of course, in the midst of transition days, there is usually some sort of crisis, medical or dental or otherwise, that leads to additional stress in one way or another.  One year, I had to have a 3 procedure root canal on an abscessed tooth that delayed our return for almost a month.  Another time, we were scrambling to get Naomi's "tummy issues" taken care of in a timely manner.  This year was no exception.  

At a last minute dental visit, my sweet Uncle Tom pointed out that sweet Anabelle had a smile that was more than a little crooked.  Not because that's just the way she smiled as I thought...
No, my sweet little thumb sucker, had quite a severe crossbite that needed to be corrected fairly quickly.  So off we went to the orthodontist to get a spacer put in to correct that bite (and hopefully end the thumb sucking)

We talked it up big the night before explaining that we were going to fix her teeth and that sucking her thumb was not good and the spacer would help her stop doing that.  Sweet angel called me from her room that night and asked me if she could suck her thumb "just one more night".  How could I say no?!

At the orthodontist the next day, she was SUCH a champ!  Didn't blink an eye as they messed with her mouth, took impressions and got everything set up.  And she hasn't sucked her thumb since!  She didn't even try.  She even explained to people that sucking her thumb messed up her teeth and that's why she has a spacer.  
Over the next few weeks during all the packing and craziness we had 3-4 more visits to the orthodontist (stupid thing kept falling out) and she traveled back to Jordan with spacer intact and just got it out a few weeks ago.  Bite fixed.  Thumb-sucking fixed.  All in the midst of craziness.  I'm telling you these girl are champs.  

Returning to our overseas home always has lots of mixed feelings.  We're truly happy to be back in our home with our stuff and reunite with friends and Mia puppy!!....

 but there is also the bittersweet-ness of missing American family and friends.  And jet lag is never fun...


The biggest adjustment for me is usually figuring out how to cook and clean again.  Until you've lived here, you can never truly understand how different cleaning is.  It's different on a regular day, but add a dust storm to the mix and whew!  I'm ready to head back to the states where doors and windows closed mean that they are actually sealed.

A storm like this coming in overnight...
 combined with the American family not checking the weather to know it was coming and leaving all windows open through the night to keep the house cool, does not equal a happy momma!
The above picture is about day 3 when we could finally see across the street again.  But each fan definitely had to be taken apart and cleaned!  

Figuring out cooking always takes me by surprise a bit as well.  Yes, we've lived in this part of the world for almost 13 years but how quickly you forget when surrounded by American conveniences! 
In case you missed it, my post from last year HERE addresses most of my complaints with the grocery store here.  But, ah, how quickly we forget...
Thankfully I have some great helpers.
(a requirement when you have more than one cart- again see previous rant  post about the push-ability of  grocery carts here)

And oh how I miss massive Costco bags of triple washed spinach!!
Washing of fruits and veggies is a massive undertaking.
It took some time, but we got the kitchen organized and back in working order.  Pretty much just in time to discover that we needed to try a gluten free diet with Naomi.  Good thing we got the kitchen in working order, because I have spent A LOT of time in there this fall!!  

Thankfully I discovered some great freezer-crockpot recipes that have helped with the crazy evenings and dinner prep...


Naomi is feeling great now.  Bottom line, we've discovered that gluten combined with stress is not a great combo for her.  She does ok with gluten during school breaks and low stress times.  N has also started swimming this fall which she has LOVED.  Mom and dad don't necessarily love that all extracurriculars here tend to occur in the evenings but we are making it work!

Another part of our transition back to life here was school for all.  Abbey and Maddie were (freakishly- yes, I'm raising nerds) excited about receiving their homeschool books in the US and they took up one entire trunk coming back.

They've done great getting back into the swing of things.  

I was a little more concerned about Naomi and Anabelle having been in English speaking school in the states and having to transition back to school in all Arabic.  
I should clarify that i wasn't too concerned about Anabelle.  She has been talking about going to "Naomi's school" for almost a year and was super excited.  

The first day was just an hour visit where I got to go to.  She loved it.
The next day, the REAL start of school, she was bouncing off the walls excited.  Naomi was tentatively excited as well.



"THE BUS, THE BUS!"
(almost forget to say goodbye to mom.  Oh my heart!)

Naomi has done GREAT transitioning back to Arabic.  She works twice a week with her tutor and is speaking and reading more and more.  I'd say being able to label the parts and systems of the body in Arabic is not so bad!

(her teachers also sing her praises as having some of the best Arabic script in the class)

And Anabelle came home a few weeks ago having written her name in Arabic for the first time and was quite proud.  She even pronounces it with an "Arab speaking English" accent.  "AH-NA-BEEELE"

They were very excited for "costume day" on Halloween.  No, it's not celebrated here overall, but some school get in on the fun...
Anabelle was apparently one of several Elsa's in her class....


In the middle of our craziness, we had the blessing of having Annie (my mom) come for a visit so I could accompany Jason to a meeting in the US.  Knowing she was coming definitely made the goodbyes a bit easier in August!
She didn't exactly have a smooth flight and her suitcase arrived several days late (like I said, whose idea was all this transition?!), but she did make it!  We discovered a new local restaurant together. Yummy!

And of course, we had to let her experience IKEA in Jordan...

It's been a crazy busy, hectic, transition-y fall, but by God's grace we are surviving and the younger ones in the house even seem to be thriving, praise the Lord.  Me?   I'm getting there, but the older I get, the more I think this transition business is for the birds!!

I guess in reality though, as believers, we are constantly in a state of transition and the true worry should come when we begin to see this world as our permanent home because it is not.   That doesn't necessarily make the transition easier, but it does help me keep an eternal perspective and embrace the moments with these 5 crazy people I'm doing life with.  Wherever they are- that is where my heart and my home is at that moment.


"But our citizenship is in heaven, and from it we await a Saviour, the Lord Jesus Christ, who will transform our lowly body to be like His glorious body, by the power that enables him even to subject all things to himself."
Philippians 3:20-21

Wednesday, December 30, 2015

Honeymoon Do-over

This past July, we celebrated our 20th anniversary. So hard to believe, right?!  During the first month of our 8 months in the states, my sweet husband planned a do-over anniversary cruise for us.  Although we would not call ourselves "cruise people" (that's an interesting people group for sure!), we definitely liked the easiness of a cruise- all things included, no major decisions to be made.  It was definitely what we needed for this season of life.

Why a "do-over"?  Weeeelll, although it took me several years to admit it (every girl wants her honeymoon to be idle, right?), our honeymoon was a bit less than perfect.  Let's just say a July 29th wedding plus a cruise landed us right smack in the middle of hurricane season in the bahamas-Hurricane Erin plus our Carnival cruise boat didn't make for the best combination.  We were unable to make 2 of our 3 ports of call due to trying to avoid the eye of the hurricane.  Hundred foot waves came crashing over the 10th level of our massive cruise ship, barf bags were placed in each window and anti-nausea medication was passed out at the information desk instead of excursion info.  Of the 2600 people on board, during the 2 day storm, less than 100 at a time showed up for meals due to motion sickness and fear.   Shows were cancelled, midnight buffets indefinitely postponed.  Our "friendly cruise director Larry" came over the intercom every so often to reassure everyone that yes, we were still frequently changing directions in an effort to avoid the hurricane, and no, we would once again not be stopping at our port of call, but not to worry, Field of Dreams was playing on an endless loop on our in cabin TV.  Not kidding.  That was the only movie choice for 3 days straight.   I would like to think that if this had happened in 2015 instead of in 1995, I could have raised a big enough stink via social media to get a little more out of it than we were offered.  Carnival offered 2 nearly broke college students a great deal.  Book another cruise within 6 months and get $50 off!  Wowzers.  Thanks.

All that to say, we needed a new cruise memory.  This time however we were a little older and wiser...  January instead of July.  7 day cruise instead of 4 day cruise.  Caribbean instead of Bahamas.  It turned out to be a great trip.  The perfect bit of relaxation during a very hectic season of life.

Here are some of new cruise memory's with a few original honeymoon shots thrown in for fun...

We discovered a new favorite beach town in Key West, Florida.  Picturesque and perfect...
  

And, oh my word. The key lime pie and conch fritters.  To. Die. For.

Second honeymoon ship...
First honeymoon ship...

In addition to Key West, we also stopped in Cozumel and Grand Caymans.  Both beautiful.



Not a drop of rain on the second honeymoon.  Beautiful sunsets every night...

First honeymoon- missed ports of call and clouds.  Lots. of. clouds.

We tried a snorkeling excursion at the last port of call that they tried, but the water was too rough to really do much.
How young were we?!
We spent a lot of time in this little cabin and not just because it was our honeymoon- there was nothing else to do on the ship except wait for the unchanging announcement from our "friendly cruise director Larry"- his voice still runs through my head!
At least for our second honeymoon we upgraded to a room with a balcony which apparently also included nightly towel animals...
Finally a day of sun back in 1995- taking advantage of the deck of the ship...
20 years later, enjoying a poolside movie at sunset...

The selfie has evolved a bit since 1995.  Back in the day, you held the camera out with your arm hoping to get your faces in the frame, and assuming you were both mature enough to look normally at the camera, you might have a decent picture 2 weeks later when you get the film developed...
At least today, you both can see what you're getting...
And this time what we got was the perfect cruise experience. Yay for do-overs.  

And for those of you who may be feeling a little bit sorry for Jason who I've clearly said is not a beach person, don't worry, when our actual anniversary rolled around in July, we had a little fly fishing get away at a friends cabin in Heber Springs.  We were so relaxed there that I managed not to take any pictures (at least that I can find now!).

Happy Anniversary to us!

Cape San Blas, Florida

As I said in the previous post, I've always been a Gulf Coast girl when it comes to the beach.  Grew up going to Destin followed by Orange Beach/Perdido with an occasional Gulf Shores trip thrown in there with college friends.  This year, though, my brother found this little gem of a place for our extended family called Cape San Blas (pronounced blass like glass).  Here is the website for this amazing place- much better description than I can give!  It's a little peninsula out from Port St. Joe-miles and miles of undisturbed beach featuring TONS of shells, amazing sunsets, miles of state parks to explore etc etc etc.  As a beach lover, i felt deprived that I had never heard of this place!  
  




And yes, we went just a few weeks after returning from Myrtle Beach.  Not a bad deal.  
My sweet husband is always very accommodating to help me get my beach fill even though it is not admittedly his favorite way to vacay... (He would choose mountains, fly fishing etc).  Thankfully at this vacation destination, fishing is a big deal so he was able to try his hand at fishing in the surf.

Kids loved giving the fishing a try too...


He finally had luck on the last day and brought in about 20 salt water catfish one after the other, but otherwise not much luck in the surf.  On the St. Joseph Bay side of the peninsula, however, he had a little more luck...
...bringing in this saltwater cobia- much to the delight of the kids (and a local fishermen who offered to take it off our hands before we knew what good eating cobia are supposed to be...)


Also, on the bay side, where we spent an afternoon, the kids had tons of fun seeing more wildlife.

Maddie found this gorgeous conch.  I don't think I had ever seen the orange-ish critter living inside.  

The kids were also delighted by the starfish and hermit crabs crawling all around the bay.



Jason also got to break in his father's day present- a new inflatable kayak.  It was the perfect place to break it in.

Both in the bay...


And the ocean...


Truly, this was the perfect place-fishing and biking and kayaking for the non-beach bums.  And, beach for days, for those of us who could do nothing but sit on the beach for 8 hours a day for weeks on end.  
Our morning set up...
Lots of sand to play in.
Dig...

Bury...


Build...
These 2 loved all their together time...

One of the favorite games of the younger cousins was "1,2,3"- basically holding Annie's hands and jumping in the surf.  One would think they might tire of this.  They did not. 
They did learn to venture off on their own.  Anabelle became pretty fearless as she watched her cousins and sisters...

Fun times had by all...



There was even some pyramid attempts.  That didn't really go so well...

Let's do a line instead...
One of the beauties of our little beach destination was the scarcity of restaurants, commercial property etc.  There was one place just down the street that we went to several times and loved- Coneheads.  As with most things on the Cape- beautiful sunsets...
This little man taking it in.  Love him.

Love them all...




John and Liz were told to duck...
So we could get this picture of Annie and Da and the grands...

And of course, no beach vacation would be complete without the required family pictures...
Getting ready...

All in all we got some great pics.  Thanks to Nan (my sis-in-laws mom), our fearless photographer!
Love these girls so.



And this guy...
Amazing beach vacation!
Hope we'll be back soon!

And of course, we always take a bit of the beach with us.  Sorting through our latest shell collection...